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3 things that got better after my divorce
Finding the silver lining
My divorce was kinda tough. First, my marriage had actually been getting better prior to the divorce. My ex is an alcoholic. I hadn’t realized this when we got married because he was highly functioning at the time. He was seldom drunk, he had a good job and he was very responsible and caring.
A few years before our divorce, though, he spiraled out of control. His life was chaotic and our marriage was in tatters. T1hen things changed. He started going to AA everyday. It doesn’t help everyone but it helped him. As he got sober, the man I married started to re-emerge and our marriage got better.
Given things were on an up-trend, I didn’t expect him to leave, particularly as I was still getting over surgery.
He did, however, and I had to move on. It was really tough because, as I said, I was still getting over surgery. Plus, he was the primary breadwinner. All of a sudden, I had to figure out how to make things work.
There have been some challenges, but there have also been some really positive things that have emerged from the tough times. In no particular order, here are three things I’m grateful for that would never have happened if my ex hadn’t left.
