Kindness in a time of Covid

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Something amazing happened to me yesterday. My car broke down.

That’s not the amazing part, that’s the beginning of the story. I pulled out of my driveway and the gear shaft knob broke off in my hand. I was in drive but could not put my car into reverse or park. I could switch it to neutral, but that was about it.

I panicked.

Normally I’m not so frettish, but Covid has made me emotionally more fragile, because everything has become more of a hassle and nothing seems to work the way it should. …


Ladies, this is what partnership means

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I talked to a friend this afternoon.

Her boyfriend lost his job a year ago due to Covid and has had a hard time finding a new one. He’s managed to get occasional temp work but he is earning a lot less than he used to.

My friend was unhappy about this.

“It’s tough on him, isn’t it,” I asked, sympathetically.

“Well, and it’s tough on me, too,” she said.

“How so?” I asked, expecting her to complain about having to give more emotional support or dealing with a lack of sex drive.

“We don’t go out anymore,” she griped.


Why is it different when the elite manipulate the memes?

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What is short selling? it is a trading strategy that capitalizes on the decline in the price of a stock or other type of investment.

Short sellers speculate that the price of said stock will go down. Shares of the stock in question are borrowed and must be redeemed by the expiration date. The investor is betting that, since the price of the shares will go down, he or she can purchase those shares on the open market at a lower cost than the borrowing cost.

The delta between the price at which the investor borrowed the shares vs. the…


If you can’t stay rational, you’re better off staying out of the market

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Many years ago, I asked a friend why he bought the house he did.

“It’s the white picket fence,” he said. “I saw it and fell in love.”

Which is sweet, but, I thought at the time, also stupid. Fortunately for our friendship, I kept my big mouth shut.

However, the reality is — when you make an investment, your emotions need to be kept out of the equation.

In the case of a house — it’s more than an investment. After all, you live in that house. So atmosphere and esthetics are important.

That being said, if a white…


All because someone was selfish

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I just found out that two people died who didn’t have to.

Because a co-worker had Covid, and decided not to tell anyone.

How do you make that decision?

How selfish do you have to be, to just not care enough to let people know? To not self-quarantine?

We are all fighting a horrible pandemic. Some of us have the luxury to self-isolate. Some do not.

There are essential workers who choose to put their lives on the line for the sake of others. …


I ask them to show respect

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I write articles about things that matter to me. That means that sometimes I write about my faith. This has led to occasional confrontations from those who seek to denigrate my faith.

How do I respond?

I ask them to respect me as I respect them.

I never push my faith on anyone.

If I write an article about it — well, you can choose not to read it. Even if you like to read my stuff, there are plenty of articles that don’t mention my faith at all. …


Does God expect us to blindly obey Him?

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Today I was discussing Christian obedience with a friend. He was having a hard time with the concept. He told me that the thought of blindly obeying anyone, even God, makes him want to rebel. Yet his pastor kept emphasizing that the Bible tells us we must obey.

I told him I understood how he felt.

I pointed out to him that God created us with intelligence and a craving for freedom and independence. If God wanted obedient robots, surely He could have done that. But He didn’t. Instead, He gave us minds.

It’s not wrong to use what God…


The men I’ve dated have had to deal with that

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I’ve always gotten along with men. Part of it is that I’ve had a brother, and was close to my uncles. Then, I went to MIT and majored in engineering. For better or worse, most of my colleagues and coworkers have been men.

It’s not that I don’t have close female friends or cherish the special bonds that women create. But my two closest friends are guys.

When I got married, I actually had three close male friends. If I’d had a traditional ceremony, they would have been part of my bridal party. …


My Mom’s 80th was tough; mine is a little easier

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I would imagine cupcake bakers might do well under Covid.

After all, who needs a fancy cake to share with friends when you’re not meeting friends? How much cake can you eat by yourself? Don’t answer that…

My Mom turned 80 in 2020. Back in the rosy days of early February, before masks and social distancing became a way of life, I sent out the invites for a special party for her.

After all, 80 is a milestone birthday.

Of course, my mom being my mom, she said she didn’t want anything fancy. Yet I know her. A gathering of…


My mother hasn’t. I don’t think she ever will. And that’s OK.

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Three and a half years ago, my husband left me.

Since then, he’s suggested several times coming back. I’ve told him no. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly hoping for a different result. I’m not insane. Why would I want to repeat a marriage that failed?

That being said, I’m friendly with him. Not intimate or close, but I’ll meet him for coffee or lunch once a month and enjoy it.

Part of this is because we share memories that I don’t share with anyone else.

While there were unhappy parts of our marriage, there were…

Shefali O'Hara

Cancer survivor, artist, writer, engineer. Grew up in NYC, living in Austin. Love animals, books, hikes, art, travel, D&D and fireworks.

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