Anecdote | Cancer

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About three weeks ago I collapsed; turns out I had a brain tumor. They did surgery, removed the tumor and now I’m recovering. The tumor was a stage IV brain cancer. It has metastasized.

Since mobility is an issue, a friend is looking after my German Shepherd Snowy. I miss…

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As a nascent crypto investor, I’ve been eager to learn more about this (for me) novel investment vehicle. …

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Today I shared a story with my boyfriend about how I’m a slow-burn sorta person. I’m not reactive.

“I was in college,” I told him. “And I had a roommate who kept wanting to borrow my blender. …

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I confess, I like bashing orcs. Though sometimes I also play an orc…

I also have played gentler, kinder games, though, like Sims Medieval. I first tried it out because I’m a history buff. Of course, I realize this game doesn’t really reflect history, but it appeals to me.


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There are many situations where people are unfairly jailed or punished for crimes they did not commit.

Sometimes it’s a young black male who happens to “fit the profile”. …

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OK, to be fair — I’ve got cancer. It’s metastatic lung and brain cancer. So even stoic men try to be kind to me. Some of them genuinely mean it, others probably just don’t want to look like jerks. I don’t care. Whatever the reason, I’ll take it. …

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Yesterday, a friend of mine unfriended me on Facebook.

This wasn’t the first time he’s done this.

He’s been my friend for 32 years. We love each other like siblings. Part of that unfortunately includes boundary issues.

I posted something on my wall that triggered him.

The other couple of…

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Lately I’ve read articles about men who are “Peter Pans”. When in a relationship, the woman does all the work while the perpetual man-child plays video games. Sounds like a dream come true, right ladies?

The above situation has never happened to me, for two reasons.

First off, I play…

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Several years ago, my husband and I were deeply in debt. This was partly due to medical bills — I’d had cancer.

We were struggling to pay off our debt when a neighbor turned us on to Dave Ramsey. We attended “Financial Peace University” and read his book.

Most of…

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I grew up in New York City. I’ve also visited Mumbai, and Mexico, and, more recently Greece and Eastern Europe. In all of these places, I’ve encountered people begging on the streets.

When I was a kid in NYC, I’d sometimes give homeless people spare change.

Then, a friend told…

Shefali O'Hara

Cancer survivor, artist, writer, engineer. Grew up in NYC, living in Austin. Love animals, books, hikes, art, travel, D&D and fireworks.

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