Also, to be completely honest - who attaches a lot of meaning to a first date? It's sorta silly. A first date is like a first interview. The chances of it working out romantically are slim. But if you at least learn something or form a connection - then you haven't wasted your time.

The whole bringing morality into the argument rubbed me the wrong way. Perhaps the people you normally hang out with are users and abusers and perhaps they play games, but I avoid those types. I'm pretty up front and honest. And I guess I just assume that people who date understand the statistics of dating?

I've also never had problems finding dates despite being sexually very conservative. There are plenty of people out there who actually enjoy the company of the opposite sex aside from f*cking.

I've had men ask me out for multiple dates over the course of months where nothing physical happened - they just liked having an intelligent, fun and pretty woman to go out to a concert or dinner. A lot of men genuinely like women and enjoy their company. I personally like men so I don't see any issues.

If the only reason you go out on dates is because you are focused on the task at hand - finding your partner - that's fine for you. I am more of a process oriented person. I want to enjoy the journey. It's a difference in philosophy, but neither of us is right or wrong, we are just different.