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Appearance doesn’t matter
Not in real relationships
I have a friend who desperately wants to find someone. She hates being single. Yet she won’t date.
I asked her a few months ago why she wasn’t putting herself out there.
“I need to lose weight,” she said. “When I’ve lost 30 pounds, I’ll date.”
I didn’t point out to her that she already weighed about 30 pounds less than I do, and yet I’m dating.
Why are women so hard on themselves?
Women seem to have this idea that unless they are physically perfect, no man will want them. Which isn’t true.
Fat women are loved. Women with small breasts, one breast or no breasts are loved. I would say that ugly women are loved, but I don’t want to call anyone ugly or have anyone put themselves down by calling themselves that.
Next time you think you can’t find love because of your body, you might think of Joni Eareckson Tada. When she was 17 years old, she fractured her spine and became a quadriplegic. She is paralyzed from the shoulders down. Yet she found love and married when she was in her 30s.
When you read her life story, you can understand why. This woman is amazing, an inspiration. She is a woman of faith and courage.
