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The Dating Stereotype — How to Attract and Get a Date
There is a stereotype about how dating works. It goes sorta like this.
Let’s say you’re a heterosexual woman who wants to find romance with a heterosexual man.
(Note: For the purposes of this article, we are going to stick with the hetero norms because that’s where the author (me) has experience.)
According to every existing trope in Western culture, the way dating works goes sorta like this — the woman gets dressed up to the nines. She goes to a venue where she can be admired for her incredible beauty.
Meanwhile, the men also go to said venue. They show off. They tell jokes or display muscles or flaunt wealth to catch the attention of the women.
The women look over the men showing off for them. They smile and bat their eyes at the ones they like. The men wait for these signals from a woman they find attractive. Then the men go up and start to chat up said woman until they get a number or a date.
I’ve Experienced This Stereotype
I was only 12 when I first saw this in action.
