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Be Vindaloo, not Wonder Bread
Attract your tribe with your dating profile
A couple of years ago I found myself single again after an 18 year marriage. As I started dating again, I made mistakes. I’m sharing what I learned so you can avoid those problems.
One of the things I discovered through trial and error was how to create a dating profile that got me responses from men I actually wanted.
What most dating profiles look like
Go to any dating site, read the profiles, and what do you see?
“I love the Foo Fighters, Thai food and romantic walks on the beach.” It’s all generic and non-offensive.
I put the same type of thing on my profile. For example, I wrote that I like to read. Then I wondered why I kept attracting incompatible men.
The light bulb comes on
Several years ago, I was at the Tattered Cover in Denver. I sat at a table sipping a latte while I leafed through Civil War histories. A cute guy asked if the other seat was taken. It wasn’t. I smiled at him and went back to my book.
He said, “Pardon me, but do you like McPherson?”
So we talked about Civil War historians. He told me about a battlefield he visited and offered to…
