Did you actually read the article? If you did:

“So then Antonio asked me how often I asked men out. I had to admit that 90% of the time it was the man asking me out on a first or second date…”

The above paragraph indicates, for those who can do math, that 10% of the time I asked the guy out.

When I ask a guy out, I pay. I’ve treated men to not only beers but nice dinners, theater tickets and in one case a fairly pricey train ride. When my husband and I got married, I was making more than he was, so for the first few years of our marriage I paid a higher percentage of the bills, as well.

So, I don’t actually fail as a feminist, though thanks for being all judge-y and making assumptions about me without actually carefully reading the piece…

Now, to be fair, 90% of the time the guy HAS asked me out. But that’s partly due to the fact that most of the time when I was single I wasn’t looking for romance, I was busy doing other stuff. Guys would ask me out and it usually surprised me when they did. If I’d been actively seeking romance the ratio would probably have been closer to parity.

Finally, re. self-grooming. Sure, we all should take care of ourselves. But in case this is a revelation to you — women have to spend more to reach the same level of “socially acceptable grooming”. Is this unfair? It’s reality. As far as dressing up for dates — while it’s true that in their day-to-day lives women might dress more for each other, on a date, if the woman likes the man, she is going to be dressing up for him.