Emotional Sensitivity

Is it fragility or strength?

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Sometimes a slender, flexible reed gets through a thunderstorm while might oaks fall apart. Is one stronger than the other? Or are they stronger in different circumstances?

Some people are considered emotionally sensitive. But what does that really mean?

If you are easily hurt emotionally by other people, it might be because you are truly empathic, sensitive, or deeply perceptive. Or, you could be self-centered or even narcissistic.

I’ve seen both.

I’ve seen people who are deep wells of emotion, who pick up nuances that most people can’t. Often these are quiet people who take their time to trust others.

There are also people who have deep empty places within themselves. They seem like they are easily hurt, and they are, but the are also constantly seeking sympathy. If you mention to them that you broke your foot, they quickly change the focus (and the sympathy) to their minor sprain instead.

I’ve dated men who seem like endless reservoirs of emotional need, and they were always the focus of feminine cruelty or insensitivity — they were just looking for a truly understanding woman. These people use their so-called sensitive natures to receive non-stop nurturing, but when their partner needs to be cared for…