How about men who fall in love because they actually love her as a person regardless of how she looks? If she gets cancer and loses a breast - they still love her. And if she takes up fitness and gets in really good shape - they are proud of her, not insecure. And it works the other way too - she loves him whether he loses a leg in an accident or gets into incredible shape. Because if the relationship is based on something real, two people trust each other and are loyal to each other despite the superficial stuff.