I am fat, and I date. Or at least, I used to, now I have a boyfriend. I’ve written about dating while fat in this article.

Some men will reject a fat woman, or assume you are desperate. It’s pretty easy to cull those. If you have an online profile, make sure to post honest photos so that you don’t waste your time or theirs. As far as the guys who think they can use a fat woman for easy sex — sorry, I don’t do that, and once they figure it out, they go away.

For the rest — there are plenty of wonderful men out there who are not so superficial. They care more about the emotional connection.

I have a friend who is doing Weight Watchers who refuses to date until she hits her target weight. I wish she would get out there instead of waiting. I think she’s cute as a button just the way she is.