I am on the spectrum, and I didn't start dating until college. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. Work on yourself and maybe focus on making friends and take your time. There are women who will value what you have to bring, but you have to give them a chance to get to know you, so participate in activities that you are interested in where you can meet women. Offer to help where you can but don't be a doormat. It's a fine balance but you want to show yourself to be a good person, but with a backbone. Good luck!