I beat men all the time when we play intellectual games. So some men refuse to play with me. Too bad for them. Men who are really secure don't mind. Besides, they know that we are all human beings - I have my own weaknesses and they have their own strengths. Maybe I score better on an IQ test but he has better people skills or more practical knowledge. It's not about who is superior, but about how complementary we are. The whole idea of who is "better" is ridiculous in a relationship. Either we respect and value each other or it's not going to work.