I chose not to have children because I was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer when I was in my 30s. I married at 30 and my husband and I were trying to get our ducks in a row before we had children, then I got cancer. And I was like — do I want to bring children into the world knowing I might not be around to see them grow up? And I decided not to.

I’m happy with my life, I love being child free most of the time, but I also do love children and once upon a time I thought I’d have my own.

Just because I have created a good life doesn’t mean that is what I had imagined for myself.

I empathize with the unfair burden placed upon you as a woman and the lack of sensitivity.

Mothers have it tough and it’s important that our society supports them instead of blaming them when things like postpartum depression hit. It makes me really angry when people like Tom Cruise says its all in their mind.

But those without children can also have it tough. Even those who have chosen it can sometimes feel sad that they didn’t have a child, and for those who have experienced fertility issues or miscarriage or any of a host of other things that prevented them from having a child… it can be devastating to have someone casually make stupid statements.

Plus I have an issue with the whole — he can have a child at 80. Just because he can impregnate a woman doesn’t mean he can be a father. Being a father takes a lot more energy and work and an 80 year old probably can’t do that. I think there is a cut-off for men too, at least for decent men who want to be real fathers vs. just sperm donors.