I dated a Chinese American and a guy from Hong Kong in college. One of my good friends is a white woman who married an Asian man and I have had other friends who have done that as well, though it's more common to see Asian women with non-Asian men.
If people don't want to date Asian men - it's their loss. Asian men are great.
As far as in the workplace.... I am against the current race-based system. Get race out of it and let it be a pure meritocracy. Asians do very well in that situation.
I know because I went to NYC public schools back in the 1980s. I scored high on the test to get into Stuyvesant in 1981. This was one of the elite NY public schools. 98% of the kids graduated and went on to college. Out of a class of 1000, 30 went to MIT, 40 went to Harvard. 90 went to Columbia.
Anyway, in my class - the acceptance to Stuy was based purely on scores on the entrance exam. That was it. It was a pure meritocracy. You could only take the test once.
In my class, there were 30% Asians, 35% Jews. Maybe 5% Hispanic and 2% black. It was also 55% male and 45% female.
This doesn't mean any particular group is stupid or smart, but people put their time and energy into different things. All of my Asian and Jewish friends worked their butts off long before I got to high school. At Stuy everyone was like that.
The problem with insisting that companies hire diversity - you have to lower standards. Again, not because some groups are stupid (they're not) but because people are interested in different things. Most women don't want to spend their lives stuck in a dark cubicle coding, so, guess what, men are much more likely to be amazing coders. It's not that women couldn't do it - but most don't want to.
Most people who have other options are less likely to want to pull all-nighters in hard engineering, science, or pre-med classes. There was an episode on House which pointed this out.
If you want the best results you hire the best people. Pandering to "diversity" for the sake of having diversity is condescending to minorities and it also makes it harder for minorities who actually worked their butts off. When I was at Stuy, no one questioned whether the black students deserved to be there. We KNEW they did - they had passed the test just like the rest of us.
In places where they lower standards to admit more of any particular group - the minorities who really deserve to be there are treated wtih suspicion and have to prove themselves repeatedly. It's unfair to everyone.
Also, this means that patients might be less likely to go to a black doctor, black engineers might not get the best assignments (the company has to hire them but it doesn't have to give them key projects) and so on.
As an engineer, I've worked with some amazing black engineers who were top notch. But after the late '90s, more and more of them faced this hurdle.
