I feel bad that this person is no longer your friend. Friendship is important. Emotional nurturing and giving is important. For him not to appreciate YOU … that actually hurts me a little.

I think you are a courageous person for being as honest as you are about being fat. And I think this person lost a real friendship when he moved away from you.

Being fat is not a sin. It’s not evil. And those of us who are fat are still lovable.

I am fat. I want to lose weight because I like to hike and it’s hard on my knees to be fat.

I recently got back from a trip where that became apparent and I’ve decided I need to do this because it will make my life better. But I want to do it in a way that loves and nurtures me and my body now as well as when I’ve lost weight. I love my body and reading your post is helping me to do that.

My brother didn’t put me in his wedding pictures. That hurt me. I was too fat. Everyone in his wedding pictures is thin.

My ex-husband is now an ex partly because I gained weight. But he was part of the problem.

Now I have a wonderful boyfriend who loves me the way I am. Of course he will be happy if I lose weight but… he is happy if I don’t.

I have a friend who is doing weight watchers and she decided to wait to start dating until she is at her target weight. I think that’s a bad idea. I told her, you’re beautiful now, date now if you want to. I think it’s a bad idea to set this artificial boundary around yourself, that you are unworthy of love unless you lose weight.

I have another friend who is quite fat. He and I went on this trip together. I know that it would be good for his health to lose weight, because he is currently pre-diabetic. BUT… do I love him regardless? Of course. He’s my friend. And whatever choices he makes, those are his choices. He deserves my respect and love whatever he chooses.

This is true of all my friends, fat or thin. People get old, they get pimples, they gain weight, they lose their hair. If you love them, none of that should make a difference.