I hate to say this, but being out of work can be incredibly hard for a lot of men. Your husband might be struggling with depression, low self-esteem... lots of things.

Instead of being upset with him, try to find ways to nurture yourself while giving your husband some grace. Also simplify things for yourself to make it easier to handle things right now.

I would also tell your husband that you need a break since you are overwhelmed due to what is going on, and ask him to manage things for a weekend or even just an overnight - while you go stay with a friend or even just a cheap airBNB.

don't ask his permission or be hostile, just let him kwow that you can better support him if you take care of yourself first. Then do it.