I love your articles. I hope you don't mind my sharing...

I DID fly to meet a man a few years ago, after my husband left. BUT I arranged it differently.

I did NOT go out just to see him. I had a couple of friends I wanted to see that lived in the same state (Florida). They lived in St. Petersburg, he lived in Jacksonville. I told him where I would be and if he wanted to see me, he'd have to figure out a way to get there.

I spent 5 lovely days with my friends - 2 with one friend and 3 with the other. The guy drove 6 hours to see me.

He paid for the hotel room for 2 nights and all of our meals except for one meal that I insisted on paying for. I did NOT sleep with him, though I was pretty affectionate the second night. But we decided that as much as we liked each other, it wasn't going to work.

He wasn't going to move because he had joint custody of his minor children. I wasn't going to move either.

Thing would have worked differently if I'd flown out to see him and stayed at his place which is what he initially suggested. The power differential would have been to my disadvantage.