I Told Mom “I Don’t Care”
She was offended until I explained
Recently, when Mom asks me to help make a decision, my response has been “I don’t care.” The first few times I did this, she was offended. She thought it meant I didn’t care about her.
So I sat her down and explained.
“It doesn’t mean I don’t care about you,” I told her. “It means that whatever decision you make will be OK with me.”
It took several repititions for her to actually get it,
When I ordered toilet paper, I put all of it in her bathroom because it’s closer to the front door and when I ran out of TP in my bathroom I could just swipe a few rolls from hers.
In the past, we’ve actually had discussions about the division of TP. That seems a waste of time.
Or a few days ago, when she was upset because my boyfriend bought me treats while I was at Texas Oncology. I pointed out to her that she had been taken shopping by a friend the prior weekend and the reason I got the nice treats was that I sat getting an infusion for almost five hours!
“Mom, if you wanted a special dessert, why didn’t you buy it for yourself while you were out shopping?”
She seemed fixated on the dessert, so I asked her — did she want me to oder her something? And she…
