I wrote an article on this on Medium. The summary - in college I decided to take a scientific approach to dating. I would try it both ways - the traditional way and also an equal way - asking men out (and paying) as often as they asked and paid for me. I carefully kept track of the data and created a graph of my results. Which were - when I let men ask me out and let them pay, they were MUCH more likely (like, order of magnitude) to want to see me again, and again... so even though I actually would have preferred a more equal arrangement, the reality was - it didn't work. Ah well.