If A Date Isn’t Working

Just end it early. Cut the suffering short

Photo by Jonathan J. Castellon on Unsplash

Apparently it takes people only 25 minutes to decide a date isn’t working, according to a poll of 2,000 adults. However, they will wait an average of 51 minutes before making excuses and walking out.

I think this is a waste of time.

When I was dating, our first date was almost always at a café near my house.

It was a public place 3 minutes from my house.

I liked meeting there for a number of reasons:

• It gave you a great reason to cut the date short if you needed to. After half an hour, you’d be done with your coffee or tea (the café also had great tea).
• It’s inexpensive.
• It’s social. People relax and open up over coffee, tea or alcohol. However, a coffee (or tea) date has less pitfalls than meeting for drinks.
• It keeps the date casual.
• It is surprisingly revealing.
• If the date went well, the café served a variety of meals.

After we finished our coffee, if I didn’t feel a spark, I was honest with him.

“It was nice to meet you,” I’d say. “But I don’t feel we have a connection.”