In a balanced relationship, both partners give and take. In some areas men give more, in other areas women give more.

If a man hates women, then women will pick up on that and only women with emotional issues will date those guys - then the guys become more bitter and misogynistic because "women are crazy". No, you idiot, the only women who will touch you with a ten foot pole are crazy.

Same with women though. if you are man-hatey then don't be surprised if men use and abuse you.

Like attracts like. If you want to attract a decent person - be a decent person AND ruthlessly cull any person from your life who shows traits of being a narcissist, an abuser, or a user.

If you ask a woman out on a first date and she assumes you will pay - it's not an issue. If she hasn't started to offer to pay by the fourth date, unless she is a broke grad student and you are wealthy, that's not OK. Even in the scenario, she should be offering to at least buy you coffee or cook you dinner.

I often ask men to help me lift heavy stuff, but then I'll offer a beer. In general, men are very happy to do things for beer!

In the reverse situation - let's say the woman normally spends 1-2 hours cooking a healthy and yummy dinner. She's going to resent him if he never reciprocates. But, if he always tells her much he enjoys her cooking and then washes the dishes after (which takes him 10 minutes at most) then she feels appreciated and happy. He doesn't have to do as much work as she did to make her happy!

None of this is rocket science but people nowadays have become so selfish and self-absorbed they don't do the bare minimum and then resent that they don't have great relationships.