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I’ve Dated Jealous Men
This is how I dealt with their control issues
I’ve have plenty of male friends. Part of this is due to my being a tomboy when I was younger, so I sometimes had more in common with boys than girls. For example, when I was in high school, I took a metal shop class which I loved. I also loved math, particularly calculus, and I learned to program, to solder, and to use an oscilloscope.
I found all of this fun.
My first job was at a firm that made computers.
This is where I made two of my best friends, both of whom are men, and who have been my friends for over 30 years.
When I started dating again, for the most part, the men I was with didn’t seem to mind that I had male friends. As far as myself, I considered it preferable if the men had at least a couple of female friends, because it showed that he could see a woman as more than just someone to date or have sex with. It showed he could treat a woman as a real person. Plus, I found, more often than not, if the woman was truly his friend and not crushing on him, she would provide him “correction” if he was acting badly.
However, I did have a few guys get bent out of shape when they found out I had guy friends.
