Facebook can be toxic
Setting boundaries helps
Yesterday, a friend of mine unfriended me on Facebook.
This wasn’t the first time he’s done this.
He’s been my friend for 32 years. We love each other like siblings. Part of that unfortunately includes boundary issues.
I posted something on my wall that triggered him.
The other couple of times this has happened, he had a tantrum and unfriended me, then I called to apologize for triggering him and deleted the offending post. This time… I realized this was silly. I should not allow someone to emotionally manipulate me in order to control my behavior.
Because, here’s the thing. Anything can be offensive to someone. Cute cat videos p*ss certain people off. I’m not kidding.
This particular friend is in an unhealthy relationship. His partner emotionally abuses him. He can’t talk to her about issues because of the fallout he faces when he does. So he stews in silence, the resentment and anger building up.
I’ve asked him why he doesn’t leave her and he tells me it’s complicated.
Unfortunately, since he can’t be honest with his girlfriend, he bottles up his rage and it comes out in weird places. This is my theory, anyway. Mutual friends have also noticed this behavior…
