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Mutual Respect is the key to good relationships
Why pressure people to change? Why not accept them for who they are?
I am dating someone who is more concerned about COVID than I am.
It’s not that I don’t care, but I’m less worried and I do things he would not do. But that is what makes me happy, and it’s my life.
He doesn’t try to change me, and I don’t try to change him.
Recently, I went out with some friends to a piano bar. I felt it was safe because all of my friends had been vaccinated, none of them felt sick (I asked ahead of time) and our table was placed some distance from the next nearest group.
My boyfriend, however, was concerned when he found out.
He asked that we not get together for a while, to make sure I hadn’t been exposed.
I respected that decision on his part.
Because it’s not about imposing my stuff on him or him imposing his stuff on me. It’s about both of us respecting each other. So I asked him how long he would need before he felt safe, totally willing to put off our next date for as long as he needed.
Because it’s his health, and he has the right to decide what is best for him.
