My heart hurts for you so much. I had an Indian friend married to an Indian doctor. the inlaws were terrible. she would work overtime when they visited, go away for the weekend.. my parents are from Inda, before my dad passed thou8gh they had a happy marriage becuase he truly loved her and if his family insulted her or said anythig mean to his kids his temper came out.

can you to to therapy by yourself? can you visit your family for part of the time they visit? can you stop engaging with your husband nd ignore him politely while spending time with friends, hobbies, clases?

I don't know what is best for you but I care and want the best for you.