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My Husband Left Me
Then I dated younger men
My husband left me when I was 49 years old. I had thought we’d be married forever. I had never cheated on him. We’d had some rough times but I thought we’d worked through them.
However, he had a rough two years. His father died, our cat of 21 years died, his mother died, and then I had a mastectomy. Instead of finding a therapist, he had an emotional affair.
He left. I grieved. And then… I started dating again.
I didn’t think I would.
I thought, as a one-breasted, overweight woman approaching 50, I might as well join a convent as date.
But I got plenty of dates. Turns out men are not that superficial. Well, not all of them, anyway.
Surprisingly, some of the men I dated were quite a bit younger. One man was 19. Way too young for me, but I told him we could be friends.
Another man was 42. That was more age appropriate so I went out with him a few times. Then he started talking about dating exclusively. I wasn’t ready for that so I broke it off. After being married for 20 years, I was not in a rush to settle down.
If you’re a woman in her 40s or 50s, or older, and you want to date — go for it. Particularly if you are in good shape for your age, a nice person, and…
