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My two best friends are men
The men I’ve dated have had to deal with that
I’ve always gotten along with men. Part of it is that I’ve had a brother, and was close to my uncles. Then, I went to MIT and majored in engineering. For better or worse, most of my colleagues and coworkers have been men.
It’s not that I don’t have close female friends or cherish the special bonds that women create. But my two closest friends are guys.
When I got married, I actually had three close male friends. If I’d had a traditional ceremony, they would have been part of my bridal party. While I would have had a matron of honor, the other positions would have been reserved for my male friends.
While we decided to take the money we would have spent on a wedding and use it as a down payment on a house, the man I married was fine with the fact that my three best friends were men. I wouldn’t have married him if he weren’t.
Unfortunately, when one of my best friends started to date the woman he eventually married… well, she put the stop to our friendship.
This is the hazard of having friends of the opposite sex. Not everyone’s significant other can handle it.
More recently I’ve experienced this dynamic play out with the guy I went to Europe with in the fall of 2019. We…
