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Not Letting Men (or Women) Take Advantage of You
It’s always your choice
Recently I was reading about a spate of women who were getting tired of being financially used by their boyfriends. So they broke up with them. All I can say is — good for them!
Of course, the same is also true with men. It’s not OK for a woman to use you either.
Does that mean that on a first date, you insist on splitting the bill 50/50? Well, if you are in Germany, that seems to be the prevailing custom. In Nigeria however, even if it’s just a casual lunch between friends, it’s a custom for the man to pay.
What about here in the United States? It varies!
My personal rule when I was dating — whoever asked the other person out should pay for the date.
This should not be a huge money sink. Go out for coffee, have a beer, or take a walk in the park. Keep it simple.
If you ask someone out and they offer to split the bill on a first date — it’s OK to let them. It’s also fine to tell them you’ve got it.
You know the three date rule? For me, it’s not about sex. It’s about who is paying and whether or not we continue pursuing romance.
I always gave a guy a second chance if we didn’t spark after a first date. But by date number…
