One Reason Men Lie

And one way to get him to be honest, if you’re prepared for it

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I have several male friends. One thing I’ve noticed over the years — they often lie to their wives and girlfriends. Not because they are cheating. But because it makes their lives easier.

I’m not saying men don’t cheat and of course the lies can truly escalate when that happens. But lying occurs for a host of reasons. And it continues to occur because it works to his benefit. For example:

• He’s lazy and doesn’t want to do certain chores. He’d rather play video games. So he pretends to not know how to do laundry. After he ruins several of your bras, you never let him do this chore again. He wins.
• He doesn’t want to go to brunch with your parents. It doesn’t matter that you go out of your way to include his family in events even though his father drinks too much and his mother is passive-aggressive. Channeling his mom, he’ll agree to the brunch plans, then, the day of, cancel because he’s got an emergency at work. What are you going to do? Keep him from the job that pays the rent?
• He doesn’t like your new hair style but he pretends to not notice or he’ll say it looks great because he doesn’t want you to be angry with him.
• He would love to try a new sexual position or try a three-some…