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Respect is more important than love
It’s the basis of all healthy relationships
I recently read about Brad Holmes. He put chili seeds on his girlfriend’s tampon, then posted a video of her screaming in pain on Facebook. Apparently this is a prank. I think it’s assault.
To put this in perspective that men might understand — what if the girlfriend decided to rub a chili on the inside of his condom? And then watched him scream in pain after he put it on his erect penis?
If you think that’s also funny….
The chili on a tampon shtick was only the latest in a series of so-called pranks that Holmes has played on his girlfriend. Apparently there are a whole series of youtube videos out there, not just of Holmes, but of others, who seem to think it’s hilarious to make their partners miserable and then to record this misery for posterity. Of course, in the process, they make money.
I’m not sure I want to delve into why people watch these videos. Instead, to me the most relevant question — why do the women (and it’s usually a woman) allow themselves to be used like this?
Even if it’s the way your boyfriend pays his bills, don’t you think it would be healthier for your relationship if he found a way to make money that didn’t involve humiliating his partner?
