So here’s the thing. I get that she was ambiguous about the status of the relationship. She didn’t want to come right out and tell him that she saw him as a platonic friend, and maybe she should have made it clear. Then again, maybe he could have asked her… he also has a mouth with which to speak.

Maybe her allowing him to hug her gave him mixed signals. But friends do hug.

However, in what universe is someone yelling “No!” and trying to get away an invitation to sex???

News Flash, real women and real sex are nothing like what you see in porn. Real women who want sex with you will not yell “No!” and try to scramble away from you. If a woman yells “No!” and tries to fight you off or escape you and you force sex anyway, that is rape.

Besides which, given that the most physical their relationship had ever gone were hugs — anyone with half a brain knows you don’t immediately go for banging her. Foreplay is fun and it also provides opportunities for consent. You lean in and kiss her. If she turns away, that tells you she’s not interested. If she leans in and kisses you back, you go on to the next step. It’s really, really simple. It’s not rocket science.

If the only way to have sex is by forcing it… then it is rape. Rape is never OK.