sure, I get that. But sometimes someone comes across as initially unattractive, but you get to know them as a person and realize that they actually are attractive... this has happened to me a few times, where as I got to know someone, I found them more attractive than I initially thought.

It's OK to be open to giving someone a chance and get to know someone as a person. worst case? you still don't find them attractive but you take a chance and make a connection.

Men (and women) should learn (I think) to value each other as people, not just as sex objects. So let's say you go out for a coffee with a woman you find unattractive. But you make the effort and you find, as you interact, that she's interesting and fun. You still don't find her attractive, so you don't go on to date her. BUT you now realize that she still has value as a human being and you can relate to her on that level.

this is a good thing, I think. It helps you empathize with people and see others in a more real way. I think that's worth an occasional coffee date with an "unattractive" person.