thank you so much for your response. I think you nailed it.

Racism is evil. I once left a (mostly white) church because someone made a racist comment about black children and no one said anything... totally unacceptable. children are children. all children should be protected. if a black child is being abused, that child needs to be protected. I don't care if the abuser is also black. I want to protect the child.

I have dear friends who are black who are wonderful parents. So it's not like black people are somehow incapable...