That is awful.

With my ex husband, he always gave me oral and while I kissed and caressed him down there, I never went all out. But that’s because he never asked and I was really inexperienced. I am a late bloomer and religious.

But he ALWAYS had an orgasm. We both always did, actually. I remember talking to other women about sex and being really puzzled about how hard they said it was for them to orgasm. Because that was never an issue for me, with my ex.

Now, to be fair, orgasms are not always the point of making love. Sometimes it’s more about feeling close to each other. There were times we just liked giving each other backrubs and cuddling. But both people should be generous to each other and care for each other.

When I make love, my focus is on my partner and I’ve been lucky that they’ve reciprocated.

I wish for you someone who respects you and loves you and many mutual orgasms in your future.