to be honest, I can see both sides with the n-word conversation, because it CAN be confusing when you hear black people say it. HOWEVER, once you explained things to him... did he listen? Did he try to understand? And in your shoes - would I want to have to explain lots of stuff to the guy I'm with? Particularly with a child you're trying to raise?

Given how hard life is, if you can make it easier on yourself by only dating black men...