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Why Do Men Treat You So Well?

Confused question asked by a friend

Shefali O'Hara
4 min readJun 6, 2022
Photo by Marvin Meyer on Unsplash

When I was in college, a friend asked me once, “Why do men treat you so well?”

“What do you mean?” I asked her.

“They always open doors for you.”

Now, I don’t know if most women care about that anymore. And many women don’t want men to do it for them. I’ve even seen women scold men for what I consider a simple act of courtesy.

I routinely prop a door open as I pass through so the next person just puts their hand out to keep it open instead of having the door bang in their face. If I see someone carrying packages or with mobility issues — then I wait and hold the door open. None of this is rocket science.

With friends, we hold the door open for each other.

However, on dates, I liked having men hold doors for me, and when they did it, I smiled and said thank you.

Some women say it signals you are helpless.

To me, it was a sign of their desire to serve me. Of caring for me, like they did by walking on the outside of the street, and carrying things for me, and so on. They were looking out for me and showing their feelings as men often do — through their actions.

Men often show their love through…

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Shefali O'Hara
Shefali O'Hara

Written by Shefali O'Hara

Cancer survivor, Christian, writer, engineer. BSEE from MIT, MSEE, and MA in history. Love nature, animals, books, art, and interesting discussions.

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