why do people have to be so cruel? If they don't want to contribute, they shouldn't. But there is no reason to be mean. You have enough going on in your life without people piling on.

I am dealing with some lymphedema on my right arm due to a mastectomy so I sorta sympathize, though my situation is not nearly as bad as yours. I exercise, I wear compression garments, I get massage. Insurance doesn't cover massage and I still have to pay a deductible and some other expenses related to treatment. I am fortunate that hospitals allow payment programs or I'd be screwed.

I am glad I caught the situation early enough that there is hope that with the steps I am currently taking, I can manage my condition. At the state you are in, I don't see how you have a choice besides surgery. I wish you the best.