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You Are Not Siamese Twins
It’s OK to have different friends and take separate vacations sometimes
My ex and I had some things in common but didn’t share all of our interests.
We both enjoyed cooking and we liked trying small, hole-in-the-wall ethnic restaurants.
We both liked to host small dinner parties (4–6 people total, including ourselves), and after we’d play cards or other games. We only did this about once a month.
He and I liked to fix a special weekend brunch once in a while — usually, he’d fetch us delicious, fresh local bagels and doctor them up with lox, red onions, cream cheese, tomatoes, and capers. I’d make Cafe Vienna fragrant with cinnamon and whipped cream and we’d play Scrabble or Backgammon while we ate.
We took our cat for walks together, went to the symphony, and went to church.
However, I was a gamer and he wasn’t. I played D&D once a week and would be out until 2 in the morning. He stayed home and read.
There were also times we both wanted space and one or the other would go off to the library or the coffee shop. Sometimes I wanted to take walks by myself and sometimes he did.
I had friends that I enjoyed that he didn’t and vice versa.
